Is it safe for me and my baby?
Unless your doctor or midwife has told you otherwise (perhaps if you've had a lot of bleeding, or if you are at term and your waters have broken), there is absolutely no reason why you should not continue to enjoy having sex throughout your pregnancy (but it is also perfectly normal if you find your libido has died a death and you don't feel like it in the slightest!)
At a glance
- You can enjoy having sex throughout your pregnancy unless told otherwise
- You may have to experiment a little to find a comfortable position
- Sex can help set off your contractions - a fun way to pass the time if you are overdue
Early on in pregnancy
Early on in your pregnancy, you might find morning sickness, sore boobs, and general feelings of tiredness leave you totally wiped out and not feeling in the least bit sexy. If you are worried about the effect this might have on your relationship, talk it through with your partner and take time out to find other ways to enjoy intimate, one on one time together.
Later on in pregnancy
As your pregnancy progresses, you might find your sex drive returns, but bump logistics get in the way! You and your partner may have to experiment a little to find a comfortable position to make love in as the months go on, perhaps lying side by side, either with your partner behind you, or with you both facing each other. You might also find penetration uncomfortable in some positions if your partner goes too deep inside you, so again, experimentation is the key.
Will it harm the baby?
Some mums-to-be (and dads too) feel uncomfortable about sex during pregnancy (talking about it or doing it) in case baby is somehow 'aware' of what is going on. Rest assured they won't be! There is no risk to your baby from penetration, and your partner will not be able to reach them while inside you.
Can sex help bring on contractions?
Having sex when you’re heavily pregnant may have some physical challenges due to the size of your bump and there is no conclusive evidence that it will helps start labour. However, semen contains a hormone-like substance; Prostaglandins which can help to soften and ripen the cervix getting it ready for giving birth.
As with all body niggles you might experience in your pregnancy, it is always worth flagging up with your midwife if you experience any pain, soreness, or have any bleeding or unusual discharge after having sex, just to be on the safe side.